If you're here, it's because you've heard the term bondage mentioned more than once but aren't quite sure what it refers to or how it's practiced. And we’re here to help.
With the help of our escorts, we’re going to show you how, through the art of massage, you can begin to enjoy the art of bondage. We will give you the key tips so you can start off on the right foot and enjoy to the fullest.
What is bondage?
In its origins, bondage was used in Japan by the military, specifically in the form of kinbaku bondage. This technique, which dates back to medieval times, was employed for capturing, torturing, and physically punishing prisoners.
Although its roots carry repressive connotations, over time, this practice has gradually integrated into sexual customs, transforming into a BDSM fantasy that provides pleasure. The more contemporary variant, known as shibari, is closely linked to a dynamic of submission-dominance within a more advanced erotic context.
Bondage is becoming popular
In recent years, thanks to the success of films and books like Fifty Shades of Grey, sadomasochistic erotic play has gained popularity. However, it still faces some disapproval due to its association with submission and physical pain, according to the analysis of a sexologist. In this context, BDSM sex continues to be a sexual practice considered taboo and reserved mainly for couples more open in their sexuality.
Bondage is approached differently in Japan compared to the West. While both involve coercion and erotic aesthetics, the Japanese variant leans towards a form of massage similar to shiatsu. That is, the person tied up experiences pleasure due to the pressure exerted by the rope on specific points called "tsubos", where blood vessels, lymphatic vessels, and glands of the endocrine system are located.
Furthermore, Japanese and Western bondage techniques differ. The Japanese use few knots, while in the West, the integration of multiple knots is more common.
What are the main purposes of bondage?
Creative art: the idea here is to paint a picture. The theme is not rigid, but there are accessories to unleash creativity.
Search for sexual pleasure: this involves tying someone up, generally naked, for easy access to their most intimate areas. The knots are adjusted without tightening too much so that pain does not ruin the exciting moment.
Desire for limitation: the freedom to move is partially or completely restricted (depending on which parts of the body are involved). Sometimes, furniture is used to form shapes (tables, chairs, etc.).
Desire for humiliation: in this case, the chosen position generates a humiliating sensation. "The penis or anus is exposed, sexual toys are involved, and the body can be transformed into an object, such as a coffee table," explains the sexologist.
Voluntary pain-seeking: tying oneself voluntarily means feeling intense pain. The ropes are tightly pulled, the physical and emotional tension is at its peak.
Before starting the session, both should clearly communicate their consent limits.
How can bondage be practiced?
In the realm of bondage, one goal is for one partner to tie up the other, restricting certain movements during sexual activity. This procedure is carried out with the purpose of generating psychological, emotional, and/or physical enjoyment. Sometimes, a blindfold is used to enhance the scenario, providing visual restraint while stimulating the imagination regarding the possible reactions of the dominant participant.
What safety rules should we keep in mind?
When engaging in bondage, it is crucial for both partners to be constantly aware of each other throughout the session. Here are some recommendations:
- Make sure no part of the body becomes numb.
- Avoid applying pressure on areas like the neck, groin, or armpits, as they are zones through which blood flows, necessary to irrigate the heart.
- Keep a pair of scissors accessible in case it’s necessary to cut the restraints in risky situations.
- Choose a safe word and a recognizable gesture to indicate the interruption of any erotic activity that might exceed the agreed-upon limits.
- Never leave a tied person unsupervised at any moment.
- Avoid consuming alcohol or psychoactive substances that may affect consciousness.
- Set a specific duration. Although the practice may involve the tied person remaining bound, preferably until orgasm, it is essential for them to always stay aware of their partner. After a bondage session, some people may need time to return to reality, so the tied person should accompany their partner with sensitivity.
What are the benefits of bondage?
Although it may seem otherwise to some people, bondage can actually be very beneficial for couples. Here are some of the most important benefits:
- Trust: Practicing bondage can strengthen mutual trust in a relationship, as this activity promotes communication, complicity, and understanding between partners.
- Communication: Practicing bondage can improve communication between couples by offering significant benefits.
- Reduced infidelity: Bondage helps decrease the likelihood of infidelity in a relationship.
- Sexual quality: Experimenting with bondage can significantly enhance intimacy and, consequently, the quality of sex. For this reason, more and more couples are opting for this practice.
